SOAP Play Party Rules

All attendees at any SOAP event must be 18 or older.


All parties involved must specifically consent to all activities. Remember that no means NO and once is enough! Consent can be withdrawn at any time during a scene. The club safeword is “RED.” If a Moderator hears that safeword, he or she will end the scene.


Keep confidential the names, telephone numbers, addresses, activities and occupations of your fellow SOAP members. The identities of our SOAP members are held in the strictest confidence. “Outing” a member – in any way – is forbidden. Let’s be grownup about this, some people are still in the closet and don’t want others (outside of the group) to know they’re involved. Get permission before addressing another members in public; they may not be “out”.  This applies to sharing personal information about one member with another member as well (i.e. asking for a phone number, etc.).

SOAP members are privy to knowledge the general public is not. Keep it that way. We are like a family to the regulars and we want to keep it that way. You may discuss generally what happened but not the people who attended without the permission of the person you are talking about.

Cameras or Recording Devices

SOAP cares about your privacy. That means cameras or any other recording devices may not be used at SOAP parties. Want to capture an image of your scene?  A Moderator may grant an exception to this policy if you ask in advance. The Moderator will determine that ALL parties involved have given permission to be photographed. In other words: ask a Moderator BEFORE the camera comes out.

No Drugs or Intoxication

SOAP prohibits the use of illegal and/or illicit drugs and alcohol at its parties. Intoxication is not tolerated. If you appear to be inebriated, you will be approached by a Moderator for your own safety and the safety of others. The Moderator’s word is the last word on this issue, and members that appear inebriated may be asked to leave.

Party Etiquette

Our members express themselves and their age play/BDSM in a variety of sexual and nonsexual ways. SOAP welcomes all such expressions that are safe and consensual. Watching and being watched is part of the experience of being in a public dungeon. Members acknowledge they may be exposed to nudity and/or sexual contact when they enter our play parties.

Our party goers are invited to watch scenes from a respectful distance, so long as they do not interrupt the scene. Loud talking kills moods! Please be aware of your volume when people are playing around you. Please do not participate in a scene unless invited. Non-consensual touching, harassment, and “puppy-dogging” of any person is not permitted. Treat other people’s possessions with respect – do not touch anyone’s toys without their permission. Solo masturbation while watching scenes is not permitted.

Clean-up Etiquette

Please also make sure that you clean all equipment that you use, and anywhere that may have come into contact with body fluids. Threshold’s provided spray bottles of madicide and paper towels for your convenience – they’re in the corner of every room. Spray down surfaces thoroughly with madicide, and then let it sit for a full two minutes. You will be tempted to wipe the surface early – don’t do it! Let it sit for the full two minutes, and then wipe it dry. The space is now ready for someone else to play.

Nude individuals and those individuals wearing only a diaper must use a personal towel or blanket when sitting on couches, chairs, or other non-play furniture.

Diapers are not to be disposed of anywhere inside of the dungeon. Diapers must be disposed of in either the men’s or women’s bathroom trash receptacles. If you violate this rule you will be asked to take out the trash to the outside dumpster.

Sex Guidelines

Currently Threshold is NOT allowing genital-genital, anal-genital, or oral-genital sex. We do not require barriers during our parties, but they are HIGHLY recommended and available in each room. Please play safely.

Cell Phone/Tablet Restrictions

If you must bring a cell phone, iPad or any other electronic imaging/communication device to the party, you must keep it in your bag, pocket, holder, or purse at all times. If you must make or receive a call, please go to the lobby area or outside before doing so.

No Exchange of Money for Any Professional Services of Any Kind

This includes professional dominants, professional submissive, chiropractors, masseurs, accountants, and brick-layers. Money transfers are only permissible for sale of legal material goods.

SOAP Guests

Please make sure that your guests know the nature of the event. Your guests are your responsibility. Please be sure all guests bring proof-of-age ID (e.g., driver’s license). Your guests must sign liability release forms at the door.

Please remember that SOAP members are entirely responsible and accountable for the behavior of their guests, as well as their own behavior, so make certain that your guests know our rules as well as you do, before the party.


Smoking is permitted only in designated areas (this includes electronic cigarettes/vaporizers). We’ve provided a spacious outdoor patio for our members and guests who smoke.  Remember – No Nudity is permitted on the patio. Consider the patio “Beach Wear Appropriate”.

Glass containers

Glass containers of any type are prohibited, with the exception of fire-cupping cups and other approved glass play equipment. No one needs broken glass in a dark dungeon.


Please eat only in the kitchen or on the patio. Exposed genitals are prohibited near the food tables. If you’re naked, ask a friend to get your food for you! Drinks are allowed in the play areas as long as they are in unbreakable containers and have lids.

Edge Play / Messy Play

Check with Moderator first prior to engaging in ANY of these kinds of play.


Manual asphyxiation or strangling scenes (where the bottom’s neck is pressed, crushed, or otherwise compressed) are prohibited due to potentially dangerous complications. Brief / Restricted breathing scenes (such as a hand over a mouth for a maximum of 5 seconds) are allowed. While we at SOAP are not here to judge your type of kink or play, we maintain this policy for the safety of our members.


Fireplay is currently not permitted at Threshold.


Will your play result in bleeding or breaking of skin? If so, please take the necessary precautions to reduce the risk of cross contamination and keep your play contained so others are not at risk (use of dropcloths and shoe covers recommended). Please bring your own sharps container for disposal of used needles and so on, and take it with you when you leave. Clean the equipment and dispose of any cleanup materials properly. We have a first aid kit; ask a Moderator for it if needed.


Love some wax? So do we. But those wishing to engage in wax play must bring their own supply of sheeting or drop cloths to cover any and all areas on which they are playing. NO WAX can drip directly on the floor, or on any equipment. The players involved in the scene are responsible for COMPLETELY cleaning the bottom and the play space. Help keep Threshold clean.

Other Body Fluids

Golden Showers, Scat, or Enema play is not permitted.

Theme Rooms

Theme rooms are for intimate or private kinds of play. Some rooms are split to allow for two scenes simultaneously. Give those playing the physical and mental room to enact their scene or move on to another location. Others may want to use the room or equipment you have selected. Please be sensitive of their desires.

Doors to the theme rooms may be closed during scenes but may not be locked at any time. Moderators reserve the right to enter the room and inspect the scene at any time.

When our party reaches over 30 participants there is a 60 minute time limit on scenes.

Emergency Procedures

In the rare case of an emergency (loss of electricity, earthquake, fire) emergency procedures will be implemented. Please follow the instructions of the Threshold staff or Moderators. Stay quiet, calm and LISTEN for directions. Tops should always stay with their bottoms and are responsible for their safety, especially in an emergency. Failure to respond to the Threshold staff or Moderators in an emergency situation will be taken very seriously.

Rule Violations

Violations of rules are handled by the SOAP Moderators. With the consensus of the moderators, we reserve the right to refuse entry to anyone or ask any individual attending our parties to leave. Depending on the severity of the violation of the rules, it may result in a warning, suspension or expulsion as a SOAP member both online and in real life.

 (These rules are adapted from Threshold Society’s rules. They have been modified to fit our SOAP play parties. If you have any questions regarding these rules please ask a Moderator.)

Play Space Etiquette

Your fellow members are sharing a very private and intimate part of who they are with you when they play at a party. To that end, we ask that you give everyone the respect they deserve by:

  • No Loud Talking (go to the kitchen, the foyer, or the patio.)
  • Be respectful of other’s headspace.
  • Whisper or hold your conversation when you are near an area where play is going on — irrelevant or loud talking can disrupt and ruin even the most intense play.
  • Socialize and chat AWAY from play in progress.
  • Heckling of scenes is not allowed.
  • Please don’t walk through or interrupt scenes. Scenes that disrupt or interrupt other scenes are prohibited. Interruption of Play Scenes is not permitted, except in clearly demonstrable and imminent emergencies (Moderators’s excepted). Do not get so close to a scene in progress that the concentration and enjoyment of the people involved is broken by you. Watch, but keep a respectful distance. Any concerns you have regarding a scene are to be taken to a Moderator.
  • Remember that cleanliness is a virtue. Clean your stations before and after play.
  • Keep your toys nearby; you don’t want to mingle your toys with some else’s toys.
  • Don’t be afraid to ask questions of the Moderators.